- This week, the study talked about the profile of good friends. They are humble, transparent, discerning, empathetic, and intentional. Which attribute stood out to you as you read this week? Why?
- Which friendship from the Bible resonated with you the most? Why?
- When does a person transition from being an acquaintance to a friend?
- Do you think about what role, if any, God plays in your friendships?
- Most of the time, “commitment” is a word we hear mostly in reference to marriages, and maybe parenting. Have you considered committing to your friends? What would that look like?
- Where are some ways that we can intentionally cultivate trust in our relationships?
After discussing the homework sessions, consider taking a break so everyone can watch the video, then continue your discussion below.
Video Discussion Questions:
- Take time to reflect on the following passages about humility in your group. Matthew 18:4; Luke 14:11; Philippians 2:8; James 4:6. In what ways does humility reflect God’s character and affect friendships?
- In the video, Amena talked about the fruit of the Spirit being a great marker for the quality of our friendships. Read Galatians 5:22-23 and discuss the characteristics described in the passage. How do these characteristics translate into your everyday friendships?
- Read Proverbs 27:17. Discuss the principle behind this proverb and how it applies to friendships.
- Isa shared that the hurt associated with being used in past friendships kept her from reaching out again. Friendship requires risk and a willingness to try again with a tender heart. With that in mind, discuss 1 Peter 3:8-9 and Ephesians 4:31-32.
- In the video, Isa recalled that she knew she found a friend because “whenever we went to coffee, we were crying.” What does it look like to “go first” and be vulnerable in your friendships?
- Amena suggested that we can use Galatians 5:22-23 as a quiz to assess where we are displaying the fruit of the Spirit. This week, write down the fruit of the Spirit and put them where you’ll see them. Ask God for eyes to help you recognize the fruit you’re lacking and rejoice in the fruit that you display.
- Good friendships take work and timing. How can your calendar reflect your intentionality in creating time for friends?
- Deep friendships require a reciprocal openness. Take time to evaluate: are you open with your struggles? Why or why not? Do you feel permitted to ask your friends about areas of struggle or growth? Why or why not?